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Getting Through the Struggle

Hey neighbors!!

Not sure what you may be struggling with this week, but no matter what it may be there is always hope.  We have passed through a few trials this last year, and I have found myself reflecting on where we have been, what is presently happening, and where we are heading.  I saw a post the other day that really got me to thinking.  Someone stated that always saying, "I really don't have it as bad as some, so I should not be complaining." is not a good thing.  I really get where they are coming from, no matter what has happened to others, what has happened to you is still important.

You need to allow yourself time to adjust and come to terms with what has happened.  I see so many people who have lost a child, gone through a divorce, or been diagnosed with a lifelong illness and they need to be able to focus on themselves some.  Now, I am not saying they do not have to move forward and gain a new interest in life, but there is a time for grief and healing.  Keep your friends close and rely on your church family.  They are there for you and can help you through whatever struggle you may be having.


Divorce literally rips families apart.  Even without children a divorce is difficult, but the minute you add children it multiplies the pain and confusion.  Children often must choose one parent over the other.  They end up spending part of their time with one parent and then the rest of their time with the other.  This can seriously cause emotional problems for the children.  The very best thing that could happen if there is no alternative to a divorce is to keep it pleasant between both parents.  Do not make your children choose one over the other.  Get counseling when needed.  Choose a good attorney who will understand you are trying to keep the divorce as amicable as possible.  Search for a good attorney in your city or surrounding area, for example in Tampa search Tampa divorce attorney.  Then work your hardest to keep things as peaceful as possible.


Death of a spouse or child can be quite traumatic.  I have seen cases where a death has literally torn the entire family apart.  This is where even through the grieving process you need to be aware of where the other family members are in their mourning.  Make times to talk and remember.  It is more often when we close ourselves off that problems and depression occur.  Reach out to friends and spend time together even when you don't really feel like being around others.  Keeping yourself close to other family members and friends will be a blessing and may help you overcome those periods of darkness.  Have a friend or grief counselor you can call when you feel like you are losing ground.


Being diagnosed with an illness whether terminal, chronic or  just long term can really make you sit back and consider things.  Once again this is an area where you need to stay in touch with family and friends.  Let them know where you are and what needs you may have.  Do not feel bad if you require certain diet, assistance in getting up or down or special sleeping arrangements.  There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself.  Do not be embarrassed to let others know of your needs.  Many make the mistake during this time of only reaching out to new friends who are experiencing the same illness or disease, or who have family members with the same issues.  Please hear me when I say there is nothing wrong with making new friends, but keep your old friends close as well.  Build a solid base of people you can reach out to for assistance and sometimes just to have a simple conversation.

I hope this helps encourage someone.  please feel free to share your thoughts and ideas in the comments.

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