Wednesday, October 17, 2018
Losing a Loved One
Losing a loved one can be difficult. I lost my grandparents on my mother's side quite a few years ago. My grandmother died of a brain embolism and my grandfather died not too long after that with a heart condition. My grandmother's death was very unexpected. No matter how or when family members or friends pass on, it is always difficult. We received notice not too long ago that a friend of ours was killed in an accident at the shop where he worked. No one wants to receive news that someone they loved has died. Below are a few suggestions and steps to take after the loss of a loved one.
I think something that would be even harder is to find out that someone was in some way responsible for the death. Whether it was a gunman, an auto accident, or medical malpractice you want that person to pay for their actions. Sometimes it is lack of action that causes a death, such as someone not taking enough precautions with safety issues, or not following through with proper procedure. When these situations come to your attention, you need to find someone who can help you and who knows the ins and outs of the law. You will be looking for a wrongful death attorney. Be sure and find out what type of cases they have been involved with, so you get the representation you need.
You also might need to consider finding a grief counselor whether they are from a medical practice or at a local church. Oftentimes we need help to work through our grief or we become withdrawn and bitter. This may be an option if you have teens or children who have been affected by the death. We had friends who lost a young son to cancer after quite a battle. Their entire family was affected by this especially after the long medical battle. It is not wrong to need someone outside the family to talk to and share your feelings with. I suggest the entire family get together and share memories and talk about the family member/friend and be open about how you are feeling at the time.
Set up some type of memorial. Yes, I know most people will visit the gravesite on a regular basis, but there may be some who can not. You could have family and friends share some of their memories, videos, and pictures and have them put together on a memorial disc. Although most will not want to watch it right away, over the years it will become a precious memory. You could create a special, private memorial page online where friends and family can share memories and connect. I am sure there are many more ideas out there of special ways to create a memorial.
Whatever you do, be sure that every family member has what they need to get through this time of loss. Not everyone grieves in the same manner, so be sure to look for signs as to how they are dealing with their emotions. Many families have been torn apart by the death of a family member when it could have been avoided.
If you have recently lost a family member or friend you have my sincere condolences. I know it is hard, but I also know that you can make it through this. If anyone has thoughts they would like to share, please leave a comment below.