It’s no secret that moving house is stressful for adults. But it can be even more taxing on children, by causing them great upset and anxiety. In an attempt to lessen these feelings, many parents choose not to include their kids in their house move plans. While keeping it a secret might seem like a good idea, it can actually make the experience worse for your kids. The best thing you can do is be open about moving house from the beginning and include your children in the process as much as possible. Here are some tips all parents should use to make their house move a straightforward process for themselves and their children.
Start the conversation early
Before you even start looking at houses and contacting estate agents, talk to your kids about your plans to move house. This will make them feel important, while also giving them an opportunity to voice their opinions and ask questions. Explain to them all that benefits that come with moving house and provide them with plenty of reassurance. Don’t be alarmed if they are angry or upset at this stage. They may need time to process these emotions before seeing how beneficial a move could be for your family. This is why it’s so important to start this conversation early, rather than just before your move.
Give them some basic information
The main reason why many kids are fearful and anxious about moving house is the mystery that surrounds it. To prevent this from happening, provide them with some information about the move. This should include where you are thinking of moving to, when it may be happening and how it is going to happen. To do this, you can talk, create an informative print out or write the details down on a piece of paper for them to read. Try to stick to the basics and make sure the information is age appropriate. Otherwise, it might be too overwhelming. Once you’ve given them this information, let them know that they can come to you with any questions.
Ask for their help
Many kids feel left out when it comes to the house moving process. This adds to their confusion and can stop them from wanting to move house even more. So instead of acting secretively around them, ask for their help. There are a number of tasks that will allow them to get more involved, while also allowing you to be more open. You can show them properties in the areas you’re considering and ask for their opinions on the best apartments or houses. Your kids can help you declutter their rooms and start packing up their belongings. Another option is to look online together at family-friendly attractions near to your new home and start planning a day out before you move. Look for possible tasks your kids can get involved in but don’t force them to do anything they don’t want to do.
It can take some time for your children to adjust to the idea of leaving the only home they have ever known. So be patient and give them the time they need to come around to the idea.