I have a really informative book to share with you! It is called Motivate Your Child, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller. They are the founders of the National Center for Biblical Parenting. I know many of you may be thinking, "Another parenting book", but this is not just a parenting book, this book helps you learn how to build internal motivation in your child.
How many times have you just done their chore, or picked up after them because it was easier than, nagging, I mean reminding? In this book you will learn ways to change your way of thinking as well as your child's. The book will not produce instant, miraculous changes, but as you change your thinking and responses, your child will too.
Wouldn't it be great to have children who can do what they need to without being told? You need to reach your child's conscience and then encourage them to allow their conscience to help them overcome their personal weaknesses.
One chapter I really like is When Kids Make Mistakes. It gives you questions to ask your child.
1. What did you do wrong?
2. Why was that wrong?
3. What are you going to do differently next time?
You end the discussion by telling them to go ahead and try again. Realize that each of these questions open room for some discussion, you are not just firing the questions off at the child, take time to respond, help them to admit to wrong doing, and then have them think about how they could have changed what was done. Encourage and lead, but don't just give them the answers. Use a Bible verse to help them understand why their actions, speech, or response was incorrect.
Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller will give you the tools you need to bring about change. There are many suggestions that will help you make changes. There are also several activities and games that help ingrain the lessons you are trying to teach your child.
Remember that this is also a spiritual battle. Motivate Your Child is based on Scripture and living the Christian life before your child. There are chapters on leading your child to the Lord, children and the Holy Spirit, and connecting children to the Bible. Each of these chapters contain spiritual truths that will help your entire family.
If you are interested in reading Motivate Your Child, you can find it HERE on Amazon. Also be sure to enter the giveaway that ends February 2.